Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk had an impact on me when I was applying to jobs. That year I applied to 50 jobs and at the interviews, I felt uncomfortable and insecure. Amy Cuddy's "power pose" gave me that confidence at those interviews. Even though I didn't feel comfortable in my own skin, my body language tricked myself into thinking that I was confident.
TOP 5 TIPS
1. Do you notice that you tap your foot or move it around when you're talking to someone? Another person may think that you're feeling impatient (re: foot-tapping) or that you're anxious or drank too much coffee (re: moving your leg).
2. How do you hold your body when you're walking? Your swagger might show that you're over-confident or approachable.
3. What is your voice volume? A high-pitched voice might be perceived as irritating. But a varied tone of voice would suggest that you're interested in what that person says.
4. Watch your favorite movie on mute. Observe how these actors/actresses show emotion and how you might respond.
5. Imitate the pace of the person's speech. Mirroring the other person suggests that we are empathizing with the person.