Most of the time, we're hard on ourselves, or at least more critical than we need to be.
Try not to "should" on yourself
I'm making more of an effort not to judge myself. I can't expect myself to be perfect. Perfection is boring. Plus it's not feasible! How do you judge yourself?
Shoulds. I used to tell myself, "I should have..." I've found that using "shoulds" isn't so helpful. Now I rephrase it as, "I'm disappointed that I didn't get up earlier." I used to think that negative self-talk would motivate me to be better. I've realized that without these "shoulds" or negative thoughts, I am still motivated to be my best. When do you speak negatively to yourself?
Our inner diague has an impact
The words we use dictate how we feel about ourselves. The more negative language we use, the more consumed we will be by those thoughts.
"Lazy" is a word full of judgment. Everytime we use a judgmental word, we are reinforcing negative self-talk.
We are reminding ourselves that it's okay to speak to ourselves with judgment. "Lazy" isn't the word that's appropriate. Perhaps fear is holding us back and that fear prevents us from acting. The next time "lazy" pops into your head, see if you can find a gentler way to speak to yourself. Maybe you're tired and you decide not to go to the gym. That doesn't make you lazy. You're just tired.